The heart of the prudent acquires knowledge, And the ear of the wise seeks knowledge. Proverbs 18:15 NKJV
My kids just left the house for their first day of school. It is the last year they will do so together. This year, there are no first day jitters (for them or me). The transition to upperclassman is quite welcome.
Lan’s head is up with confidence. In fact, I think he is relishing no longer being handled with “kid gloves.” I’ve finally learned I don’t have to micro manage every detail.
They have both done well “detaching” their identities from one another. Yet, I hope this year as they share their marching band experience it will leave them closer than before.
We’ve both come a long way from that first day of high school when I started this blog. We have stretched a bit and hopefully grown wiser.
So, for those of you anxious about your school year, here are a few things I learned along our walk along the spectrum.
God can provide exactly what you need. It may not come how you expect it but any void that is lacking God can surely fill. God put the people we needed in our lives years before we really needed them. If you have faith, God will direct your steps.
There are angels among us. We have received favor and help from the least likely of sources. The people you think will ignore your child will later go to bat for him. Teachers, support staff, janitorial and other students all helped us along the way.
Advocate for your child. No one is going the extra mile if you aren’t leading the way.
Your worse fears rarely materialize. I am ever prayerful. I am also ever watchful! We’ve had to navigate a few bullies, but we survived unharmed.
Be involved! If you can’t be involved then don’t be a stranger. If your first time at school is due to a problem, rarely will things go your way.
Cut yourself some slack. If your child falters in some area it isn’t the end of the world. Stressing out only makes it worse.
Be willing to change. What worked one year won’t necessarily work the next. Kids grow and change just like we do. Don’t waste time trying to reclaim yesterday.
Utilize your resources. Lan has been the only student in tutoring class many times. On the upside, it got him one on one instruction!
Learn to step back. You will never know what your child can do if you don’t allow him to succeed and fail. This was hard for me. Still, Lan learned to thrive and not just survive!
Lan learned to work smarter.
My faith stretched farther.
My youngest wasn’t the only one learning these past two years.
And for that, I am grateful.