In the midst of the snow-pocalypse down here in Atlanta my kids were out of school most of the week. That left Lan with lots of unstructured time. Anyone with a kid on the spectrum knows that isn’t always a good thing. One of the things we’ve been trying to work on continuously is maturity and age-appropriate behavior.
When the snow fell on the first day, Lan made mention of going outside and making snow angels. He is now fourteen. His older brother (by fifteen months) had no such inclinations. It was a far cry from the last snow three years ago when they both played gleefully outside. This time however, Cam in his teenage sarcastic voice exclaimed, “It looks pretty but snow is wet and cold. I’m not trying to get in it.” Lan held no such reservations. So, I simply waited for the time he would ask, “Can I go play in the snow?”
Interestingly enough, the request never came. Additionally, Lan was a trooper over four days studying biology on the computer test prep site (and making As), reading the James Patterson book assigned to him by his teacher and thoroughly practicing both his instruments without a peep of dissent.
Cam had biology he could read ahead on and math to preview as well. When Lan saw he was not alone in his studies, he appeared less ambivalent about them and did not at ask why? He had a sincere desire not to get behind in school. Trust me; this is a huge step forward.
Lastly, as hubby and I headed out for date night last night, Lan was perched on the couch ready to enjoy some television time. When I asked what he was going to watch he said, Transformers. I was intrigued because for once it was the live action movie and not the cartoon show. I’m sure I wasn’t overly confident that he wouldn’t soon turn the channel to Ninja Turtles or something else on the “kids” cable channel but when we returned several hours later he was still on the couch watching the third Transformers movie. The live action movies with real people were actually able to hold his attention.
So, what’s the point?
The point is the things we pray for in regards to our kids, their growth and development won’t necessarily come all at once. Sometimes they come in increments so small we would miss them if we aren’t careful. I certainly didn’t realize it until I was in church this morning and realized that God was slowly answering my prayer!
And to top it off, Lan walked up to one of my friends after church today and said “Hello.” He doesn’t know Keren that well at all. She said, “You have a really friendly child.” I just smiled. She has no idea of how miraculously far he’s come to reach the point of walking up to her, without me and politely speaking.
None of these minor changes seem like a lot to most people, yet I believe small changes in the right direction should be recognized, appreciated and celebrated.
On this Sunday it is one more thing to be grateful for. My “baby” is taking small steps away from childlike things. Now don’t get me wrong, we still have a house full of Legos, Ninja Turtles and other stuff. And I don’t mind that at all. But it’s wonderful to recognize movement toward our goals. Sometimes when it seems nothing at all is changing, things may actually be making a shift in the right direction.
Today I am grateful to God for “baby steps” no matter how small they may be. I am also grateful for revelation to recognize them and not just gloss over things as I am apt to do. Not only is God doing some wonderful things in my baby boy, it appears He is also doing a few good things in me as well.
“The steps of a [good] man are ordered by the LORD, And He delights in his way,” Psalms 37:23 NKJV
“A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps,” Proverbs 16:9 NKJV
[I would have lost heart], unless I had believed That I would see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Psalms 27:13 NKJV
5 thoughts on “Baby Steps”
Isn’t it the truth that just when we are beginning to wonder if anything is changing for the better of any progress of any kind is being made, our kids do or say something, often very small but recognized instantly by us as a major breakthrough which makes us thank God that we are doing something right and that He is indeed guiding them! Very much agree with Pamela above, just the same with our grown kids. Very much 🙂
So what you’re saying is it never stops! 😉
Yes, I’ve found that when I’m almost on the verge of giving in our up, some ray of hope reveals itself that all is not lost. We often “know” God is working in our minds, but it’s always good to actually see some results up close and in person.
Have a Wonderful week Sherri!
Well, basically, yes, lol 😉
I think that we are sent these little rays of sunshine precisely for that reason, so that we don’t give up!
You have a wonderful week too Lilka and keep warm in the snow 🙂
Amen to small steps. I am also grateful for small steps with grown children. Just when you think all of your conversations to try and help your children make wise decisions have fallen on deaf ears, some small revelation happens to let you know God is still intervening on our behalf for the betterment of our children. Continually celebrate the baby steps because they are the foundation for their larger steps in life. I love your blogs.
I kid you not, I was thinking about you as I was finishing up that one, wondering what the “big kids” were up to! Thanks for a much needed voice of affirmation. Love you! 🙂